This is the last in a five-part series from the Sara’s Secret and Condoms to Go Exclusive Event on August 21st entitled “Flirting & Foreplay”. Each week I will dive deep into specific subtopics for more detailed information and resources. This week: Flirting & Foreplay – Seal the Deal.
Flirting & Foreplay – Seal the Deal: “What do you want?”
No deal is complete until you close it. It’s best to determine up front whether you are willing to go all the way and go home with your lust interest. Or are you just polishing your flirting and foreplay approach? Be cautious of getting caught up in the moment and plan ahead.
Flirting & Foreplay – Seal the Deal: First – Plan Your Strategy
This may sound more like a business transaction and that’s a great way to look at it. By looking at it from this perspective, you won’t get too caught up in the outcome and the focus is more on your approach to see what may need to be adjusted along the way.
First and most important, decide if you are willing to go all the way or if you just want to “test the water”. There’s nothing worse at the end of the evening when making a snap decision that might cause regrets later.
Flirting & Foreplay – Seal the Deal: Second – Consider Appetizer or Dessert?
This is a fun one…an appetizer can lead you to a tasty meal but you don’t want to overindulge – you want to save some room for the main course. An appetizer can also be a fun way to try some new and different things.
Try making the first move. What about eye contact and flirting? I will sit somewhere strategic.
I will even venture out alone (don’t be scared, just TRY it!)? Explore a new place and talking to different people.
An appetizer can leave you wanting more. If you’ve decided that you are just perfecting your approach, then the appetizer route is the way to go. It will reveal things that work and don’t work. It will give you the confidence to achieve the results you want.
The appetizer approach is about sampling different things in a variety of ways without crossing the finish line.
Now, let’s talk about dessert! I LOVE sweets and there are times when I want dessert first (just because I want to). Having dessert first can be a special and unexpected treat. What does dessert look like for you?
Most of all, you may have perfected your approach to the point where you want to skip the appetizer and the meal and cut right to the yummy goodness. Why beat around the bush when you know you’ve determined this is going to be where you are going to end up anyway?
Additionally, dessert first also means capturing the energy of the moment, continuing the chemistry and the quick connection you’ve made. This is exciting, this is daring and this is an adrenaline rush. When you’ve prepared for this outcome, you leave little or no room for regrets because this is what YOU want and no one is talking you into it.
Flirting & Foreplay – Seal the Deal: Finally – Prepare to Finish
Are you willing to give out your phone number or would you rather be in control?
Would you consider spending the night or do you need to make a break after you’ve done the deed?
Is it possible to see where your evening will take you or do you feel better with a definitive plan in mind?
Are you open to a one-night stand?
What happens if you want a one-night stand and your lust interest wants a relationship?
Are you completely prepared for an evening of hot romance? And sex (lube, condoms, dental dam, toys and other items of pleasure)?
As a result, these are all things to consider BEFORE you “seal the deal”. There’s nothing worse than not being prepared or feeling like you’ve made a bad decision. With a little preparation you can have a fun, romantic, sensual, exciting and pleasure-filled evening (or morning or afternoon).
Up next week: Aphrodisiacs
We’ve all heard the word aphrodisiac. What can we do to have a complete experience that engages and captures all 5 of our senses? The next two posts will discuss some interesting facts and feature products that will increase pleasure and heighten all five senses with the third post .
See you here next week or at an upcoming event. If you have an event topic you would like to see at one of our events, please let us know!
Anticipating Next Time,
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